Did you ever lose someone?

I don’t mean lose in the sense that someone dies. It’s not as big as that, but neither do I mean in the Wildean, “To lose two parents..” sense, I mean (well, now that I think of it, maybe I was, indeed, careless) the sense where you really didn’t want to lose them and they went anyway.

I did this once.

I suppose, with the attitudes that people have towards the nebulous internet, that no-one’s going to think much of my losing someone when it is revealed that I had never met them.

Yeah, Marc (Marc Garnier was his name – and now that I’ve typed it here, this page will appear on the Google searches I do with alarming regularity) was one of the people I’ve developed a connection with on the internet. It’s becoming quite fashionable now, this internet relationship business, but back in the day such an idea was regarded as bizarre – bordering on perverted. I talked to Marc using an instant messaging service called ICQ (who uses that any more, hey?) and through vigorous email exchanges.

I really liked this French-Canadian mechanic. (Yes, we all know what ‘really like’ means.)

One day he stopped talking. I think it was for a good reason, I know it was actually. And this stopping has continued ever since.

5 thoughts on “Did you ever lose someone?

  1. Matthew says:

    The cool thing about the internet is you can make these connections that span the globe. But we forget how tenuous the connections are. For example, you read a weblog every day for a year then the RSS feed breaks and you realise you don’t even know what the person’s name was: they’re gone for good. Suddenly we have this global reach, but connections like this are not well integrated into our lives. We can’t ask our friends if they know this person like we could in a geographical community.

    I lost someone about 18 months ago and just rediscovered them today on Flickr after a song reminded me of them. It helps to know people with obscure surnames — then Google will probably spit them out again eventually.

    I guess it’s worth bearing in mind that this doesn’t just happen on the Web. People are mysterious.

  2. Anonymous says:

    U know those teachers u always remember from school? either coz u h8 them or they rock! Well chris i will always remember you coz u rock and i love u!

  3. Christopher Waugh says:

    That one comment makes EVERYTHING worthwhile!

  4. updoc says:

    My parents passed away in the space of a year. And yet they live on inside of me. Just as I am a part of them, so too are they a part of me. That never changed while I was living overseas and that certainly didn’t change when they shook off their mortal coil. The same, however, cannot be said for those whose ties ran less deep. There may well have been strong emotional attachments at the time but, with the passing of time, these once powerful connections fade. They become more phantoms of your past as opposed to the people you once knew. You would like to believe that you could pick up the pieces and start afresh where you left off. People, however, are not static entities that never change with time. However imperceptible the differences may be, the passage of time sees a change occur in all of us. We may at times be curious to know what a ghost from the past is up to but we forget that a closed chapter in our life is a new opening in their life.

  5. woman wandering says:

    Strange creature I be, I just wanted to write that I loved this sentence: ‘One day he stopped talking. I think it was for a good reason, I know it was actually. And this stopping has continued ever since.’

    I noted it down, I don’t want to lose it. It’s like a poem.

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